Lessons learnt from my own encounters with "Becky with the good hair"

Happy Thursday!

So you've probably been living under a rock if you haven't heard about the bomb that is Lemonade; Beyonce's visual album that was dropped at the weekend. While you may not have heard all the songs or taken note of all the lyrics this one stands out,

 "He better call Becky with the good hair."

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Looooool! So much shade packed into just a few words. And even more controversy over that line. The whole BeyHive got to speculating about who it was and started burning bridges with a few people very fast.
Hold up!
Y'all gotta calm down and take a few sips of that lemonade. *pun intended*

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That's not what the album is mainly about. You have to take a couple of steps back and see that it's about her wearing her heart on her sleeve; her opening up her usually very private life to the world; her showing us that she's human like everybody else and goes through the same things we do and so much more. And while i do not agree with the symbolism connected to her videos 😒 I did pick up one or two things from her lyrics: Do not be appologetic about who you are as an individual (not justifying bad behaviour though) and forgiveness, though frowned upon by the world, is key. You'd see this, if only you took off your judgmental framed glasses.

Here are some of the lessons I've learnt when confronted with "Beckys" in the past and how I've dealt with it:

• Who she is, Does. Not. Matter. - If you're focused on finding out her identity you're way, way off track. Get back in your lane and focus on the matter at hand girl! Mkay?                                                         I will bless those who bless you, and whoever curses you I will curse; all the peoples on the earth will be blessed through you. Genesis 12:3 NIV  *God's promise to Abraham

• You're allowed to forgive, just don't forget. - That may sound a little unchristian of me? Yes? Sorry, not sorry though! Yes, forgiveness is crucial and harboring bitterness is deadly to the soul. Forgiveness will help you heal but, please don't go forgetting what was done to you and walk right back into the same situation. That, that's just foolishness.  If God can forgive us all our sins, I'm pretty sure you can forgive someone that's hurt you.                                                                                                           Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4:31 - 32 NIV

• There will be people who will want to fuel your hate, encourage you to bust some windows or say some nasty things in public. Do. Not. Listen. To. Them! - Unfriend, unfollow, delete and block those people. You do not need that kind of negativity in your life.                                                                                    Do not be deceived: "Bad company corrupts good morals." 1 Corinthians 15:33 KJV

• You're allowed to cry - yes, even big girls cry. Get it all out. You've been hurt and it's totally understandable. Do not however throw yourself a pity party on the internet and let the world know your business. It's not classy.                                                                                                          Come to me, all you who labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28 NKJV

• Talk to God about it - While talking to friends,family, councilors, and so on may be therapeutic, the only place you can truly find peace is in the arms of God.                                                                     And the peace of God which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7 KJV

• While you're at it get and surround yourself with (the right) Christian friends - they not only give the best support but also give great biblical advice which is the most important thing.                                    Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14 NKJV

• When the time is right and you've completely moved on, don't be afraid to step out - It may seem scary at first and you'll definitely be a little/lot (lottle. Lol!) cautious but do it anyway.                                       Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them for the Lord your God goes with you; He will never leave you or forsake you. - Deuteronomy 31:6 NIV.

"There's a freedom waiting for you, 

On the breezes of the sky,

And you ask, "What if I fall?"

Oh but my darling,

What if you fly?" -Erin Hanson 

 What lessons have you learnt from your encounters with "Becky?"

Bisous

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